A Career Come and Gone (Part Two)

Posted September 5, 2014 by

You must be gay…………….I lived with this statement for years growing up………………..the answer is YES. Some would then suggest that you must be gay because you were labeled as such? The thought crossed my mind different times, till such time as I became attracted to the same sex. I was around girls endlessly, to say the least. Some guys were even jealous, but you still must be gay. There was no evidence to me that hockey players considered the possibility that dance lessons could enhance their own skills in the 60’s and 70’s. I like to think I helped pave the road to a less judgmental way of thinking.

I felt different alright……………..I seemed to be the only one that made a career choice at such a young age. Sure, kids are put into dance lessons, piano lessons, hockey lessons, etc……………but I truly made this choice on my own with very little need for guidance. My parents were so proud of me all along the way, never judged me or even prevented me from making my own decisions within reason. I truly don’t remember how old I was when I was informed I was adopted as an infant. I just remember that when I found out, I told my adoptive parents that they’ve been my parents and nothing would ever change that. I was 16 when I met my 2 biological sisters, and this happened on my youngest siblings 18th birthday. The best present she ever received she said……………however, we never remained in touch for very long. I was fine with this, as we really had nothing much in common, due to not having grown up together.

Already I was feeling the struggles of life…………….asking myself WHY! Am I doing the right thing, as many of my peers are creating questions in my own mind? Have I made a wrong choice to simply do in life what was making me happy? To this very day I wonder whom I would have become, had it not been for the support of my Elementary School Teacher’s pulling together to enable changes. Later in life I would find myself becoming a public speaker and an advocate towards fighting bullying in society.